Defeating Insecurity

May 18, 2022

David said about him: “I saw the Lord always before me. Because he is at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest in hope…” Acts 2:25-26 NIV

Love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it… shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love. 1 John 4:18 NLT

Insecurity is an insidious destroyer of relationships. It is sneaky because it masquerades as other emotions and we have a hard time owning that we are really insecure, even when it is actively destroying the things we want most.

Insecurity will make us run from vulnerability, authenticity, and intimacy. Relationships often won’t get the real us. We fake it because we are too insecure to be real. We lie and deceive, first to ourselves. We lie about lying so people will trust us and like us. I know—unreasonable, right?

Insecurity will cause us to be controlling. Because we believe we can’t count on others to do it right and treat us right, we try to control things and people to ensure the outcome we desire.

Insecurity will cause our integrity to be fluid. We will make our decisions based on how beneficial or harmful the outcome will be for us.

I could go on, but you get the point, right? Relationships with insecurity have a very shaky foundation and are doomed to fail. Just one of these results would wreak untold destruction in a relationship. What’s the solution? Love is the solution, and it doesn’t start with the love for the person in the relationship with you. It is bigger than that. David said that his love for the Lord gave him the foundation for his security—because he had the Lord, he would not be shaken. Because of his relationship with the Lord, his heart was able to be deeply glad and his tongue delivered joyful messages. He even said it caused him to rest in hope. Rest in hope? People with insecurity don’t rest. They are always trying to handle things; always trying to keep things controlled. Deep relationship with the Lord changed that for David. Then his relationships grew.

John said that perfect love (what we find in Jesus) drives out fear. Insecurity shows that we are not experiencing His perfect love. Doubling down on love for and confidence in Jesus is the starting point.

• Jesus, I want to trust You to handle my life. Help me love and trust You fully.