Motivating Relationships

June 16, 2022

Let us think of ways to motivate one another to acts of love and good works. And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near. Hebrews 10:24-25 NLT

When relationships are strong and healthy, they can be the most motivating elements in our lives. Everyone needs motivation. Everyone likes to be encouraged. Continuous and consistent affirmation and encouragement are necessary for a happy and healthy relationship.

As Jesus followers, it is our responsibility to be each other’s biggest fans. Hebrews 3:13 tells us to “encourage each other every day.”

How can we motivate and encourage each other in healthy relationships? Noticing and applauding the strengths of others always encourages. The world is weighted on the side of criticism. The people in your relational circle interact with people all day long who are quick to note and point out their flaws and take advantage of their weaknesses. You can help them become the very best version of themselves, impacting their identity for good, as you appreciate their strengths and abilities, affirming them for every step forward. When criticism hits them, you can speak the truth in love, helping them accept legitimate input and make changes. We all have difficulty being objective about our strengths and weaknesses. You can own your personal weaknesses and encourage mutual growth. We grow better together.

Unconditional love and acceptance are motivating. We say we don’t expect perfection, but it’s easy to withhold love and affection when we don’t get it. Give the people in your life room to be imperfect and they will be more motivated to try new things. Don’t bring up past mistakes. It causes feelings of rejection and lack of love.

Help your loved ones with their goals. Everyone needs people in their corner who will step up when needed. Don’t take over, but let them know they have a partner who believes in them and their future and will help if you can.

Inspire through your actions. There is nothing more motivational than seeing someone do something great—except doing it with them. When relationships are healthy, you can be certain one element in the thriving is working together toward a common goal. Iron sharpens iron.

We all crave encouragement, motivation, and affirmation. This is why God tells us to prioritize giving this to each other as Jesus has given to us. It’s where health is found. It’s our responsibility.

  • How does God do those things for you? Who needs you to share this with them?